Sometimes life throws you curve balls. People and plans fail you, the going gets tough, and everything seems to be falling apart.
We’ve all had days where we can’t help but feel disheartened and discouraged and we even start to doubt our own self-worth. Some days, you feel like you just can’t go on.
But before you throw in the towel, ask yourself these 5 questions:
- Why did you want to do this?
Go back to the “why”: Why did you choose to pursue this goal in the first place?
You are now at a crossroads of deciding whether to close the chapter or plod on. Before you write that ending, try to recall the reason, inspiration or passion that prompted you to embark on this journey. Then ask yourself whether these reasons are still important to you.
- How badly do you want this?
Determine whether what you are giving up is a need or a want.
Is it something you cannot live without? If so, you will have to buckle down and work through it.
However, if it is a want, it becomes a choice of whether to pursue the matter. You will then need to decide if you do still want this, and how much you want it. It helps to look back on how much you have already sacrificed in getting this far and what it took you to get here.
- Do you have it in you?
Success does not come overnight. It takes time, sacrifice, money (sometimes), and a whole lot of perseverance.
The reality is, there is no such thing as a smooth sailing path to success. There will be bumps along the way: unforeseen obstacles, roadblocks and other deviations. So if you want it, you will have to work for it. You will need enough passion, grit, drive and endurance to get you through to the finish line. The question then is, do you have what it takes to get there? And are you prepared for the journey?
- Have you explored all your options in making this work?
Ask yourself whether your decision is an emotional or rational one. Sometimes, we are so emotionally tied to the situation that it blinds our judgement.
It is always good to get another perspective on the matter, such as a second opinion from a trusted friend. Someone else might be able to provide you with a solution you may not have even thought about and this could just salvage the situation. Do more research into finding solutions, think out of the box, explore. Many great people in history have created success out of bad situations.
Sometimes all it takes is a creative approach to the problem.
- Does continuing on the path make sense?
There are times when you really have to consider whether quitting is your best option.
Look at the big picture and honestly ask yourself whether it is still worth it. Knowing when to cut your losses could save you much anguish and reduce the emotional or financial damage to you in the long run. Blindly or forcibly pursuing matters might only make things worse.
An alternative to quitting could be to move with the times and simply adapt when things change. Choose the option that works best for you.
That said, there is a well-known real-life story called “Three feet from gold”, which you may have heard before. It was the time of the gold rush of the 1800s. A man was digging for gold and found a vein of ore that enabled him to pay off his debts. Things were looking good but the supply of gold suddenly stopped one day. He kept digging to no avail. Eventually, he called it quits and sold the mine to someone else. The second man continued to dig and subsequently found another vein of gold just three feet from where the previous owner had stopped digging – and became a multimillionaire.
The truth is, you never know how close you are to getting what you want. So before you give up, think through your options carefully and make the most rational decision from there.